pulse.
what is pulse?
tessakin has a set of practices designed for tending your relationships. glimmers, embers, soundings, pulse. each one works differently. each one creates moments over time.
pulse is the daily one. one question. you both answer separately. then you see what each other said.
what it looks like
here's what a week of pulse looks like between two people. they didn't see each other's answers until after they both wrote.
every week you both show up, a milestone is created. a small marker that says: we paid attention this week.
what it becomes
one milestone is nice. five weeks of them is a record. not of what happened in your relationship, but of what you noticed.
here's the same person, five weeks apart. early on, short and careful. by week five, something opened up.
what it means for poly folks
if you're in more than one relationship, you already know: each one has its own rhythm, its own language, its own way of being close.
pulse works the same way. one practice, multiple partners, each connection on its own terms.
same person, same week. two different relationships. look at how differently she shows up in each one.
and on her moments page, both rhythms live side by side. nothing competes. nothing collides.
why it works
“I didn’t think I’d be the kind of person who does a daily relationship practice. but this is where I say things too small for a conversation and too important to lose.”
pulse is free on tessakin. start with someone you love.