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view all →i came to these slowly · through study, through loss, through having more than one romantic partner at a time. three practices that don’t resolve when you tend them. they intensify. this is where i am with all three.
antonio · Jul 2026
one of you loves more than one person. one of you loves just the one. that’s poly/mono · a real, common, whole way to build a life together. here’s what it is, why monogamy isn’t the lesser setting, and how two people hold it honestly.
Tessakin · Jul 2026
hierarchy and priority are often used interchangeably in conversations about polyamory. they're not the same thing, and confusing the two creates misunderstandings that can quietly shape relationships.
Tessakin · Jul 2026
i used to treat jealousy like a fire alarm. something to silence as fast as possible, ideally before anyone else noticed it was going off.
antonio · Jul 2026
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antonio · Jul 2026
i don't sever bonds easily. my instinct is to find the form a relationship can still take rather than let it end completely. sitting with Anubis i've had to ask myself a harder question: is some of that fear? mastering death isn't about welcoming endings. it's about being fully present with them without needing them to be different than they are.
antonio · Jul 2026
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