specific do's and don'ts a relationship agrees to, often meant to manage risk or reassure someone through change. rules can be steadying, especially early on, and they can also chafe, since they try to govern what another person does rather than name what you need. some people like the clarity of rules; others prefer agreements and boundaries that leave more room for individual choice. the useful distinction is knowing which one you're making.
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