the built-in advantages an established couple carries into non-monogamy: shared home, finances, history, social recognition, and the quiet assumption their bond comes first. it isn't a villain, it's a dynamic to notice, because unexamined it can leave newer partners with less say and less security while everyone insists things are equal. naming it is how couples keep it from running the show.
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definition contributed by Tessakin