we're building the platform this community always deserved. come help shape it.
you already know what's wrong with the platforms our community has been forced to use. discord grows fast and burns out its moderators. facebook groups get surveilled and demonetized. reddit lacks the cultural framing. the good poly forums from the early 2010s are mostly gone. the tools our community depends on were built for someone else.
tessakin is being built specifically for us · a home where chosen kinship is the architecture, not a bolt-on. where moderation is restorative and human. where the platform was designed for the people inside it.
we're inviting a small group of community leaders to help shape what this becomes. you're on that list because you're already doing this work, and you've earned a seat at the table where the next platform gets designed.
there's a light path · and a deeper one. both are open.
founding leaders take different shapes depending on where you are with your community. we're intentional about not forcing one model.
show up as yourself. use tessakin actively for at least three months. give us feedback. tell us what your community needs. bring people over when the platform feels right. no revenue conversation · you're here to shape the platform.
make tessakin your community's primary home. three-year commitment to nurture it here. tier ladder + revenue share as the community grows. your own branded sub-spaces, source-tracked signups, direct roadmap voice. same warm invitation · deeper, more specific model.
the platform is live · the founding cohort is still being built.
tessakin's core is shipped and working · real members, real practices being tended, real events on the calendar. what hasn't happened yet is a community leader bringing their whole community over. we're actively having those conversations · you might be one of them.
joining the founding leaders cohort in 2026 means your voice is in the room while the community-leader tools are being designed · not after. the first cohort is a small number by design · we can only build well with so many at once. the door is genuinely open right now.
the core platform is built. depth, not breadth, is what's next.
tessakin is relationship infrastructure · not a dating app · not a messaging app. a home for tending the relationships you already have, finding community with people who live like you do, and playing together in ways that mean something.
connections and practices: kin (named connections), pulse (daily), glimmers (weekly), tending (monthly), embers (intimate card game), soundings + thread (new connections), weave (group), mend (repair), and accord (a living relationship agreement).
community: spaces with three privacy tiers · events with reminders and reflections · direct messages · space chat with reactions and pinning · a member directory of ENM-affirming businesses.
play: have you ever · tessakin spectrum · campfire · vowed. guest access for people not on tessakin yet.
discretion tools: quiet mode for professionals · practitioners space (coming) · restorative moderation · no third-party trackers · no ads · no data sale · opt-in sensitive data throughout.
we're not asking for a contract. we're asking for engagement.
this applies to both paths · the light and the deep. depth of engagement varies · the shape of the ask does not.
use tessakin actively for at least three months. take the quiz. join the spaces. RSVP to events. try the practices with someone you care about. play the games. tell us what landed and what didn't.
give us feedback that's specific. "i tried to do X and it felt weird because Y" is more useful than "this is great" or "this needs work".
tell us what your community needs. you know what the people you lead are looking for. we want to hear it before we build the wrong things.
be honest about what isn't working. the point of the founding cohort is that you have the standing to push back on us. use it.
bring your people when you're ready. tessakin is built for invitation. when the platform feels right to you, invite the people you lead. we'll help you set up the space.
there's no NDA. what you see here, you can talk about. we'd rather have an honest critic with a public voice than a quiet supporter under contract.
on money: the light path (path 1 above) has no revenue conversation. the community-bringing path (path 2) shares in what your community's economic activity generates · directory listings, event ticketing, community patronage. transparent and structural. the full model lives here →
your name on the door · and a real hand in what gets built.
a founding member badge on your profile. visible, permanent. you'll always have been here first.
access to the founding leaders space. private, leader-only. for conversations about leading communities, building moderation culture, and shaping what tessakin becomes.
access to the founding cohort space. shared with founding members. cross-pollination and broader feedback.
your own space, when you're ready. the architecture for leader-run spaces is live. when you're ready to bring your community onto tessakin, we'll set it up together · your name on it, your culture in it.
access to the backlog at /backlog. the roadmap with comment threads on each item. tell us what to prioritize, what to drop, what we're missing.
you can DM me directly. email, in-platform, whatever works. i'm antonio. i read everything. i respond.
practitioners space when it launches. if you're a therapist, coach, attorney, doula, or other professional serving the community, you'll get access to the practitioners space alongside quiet mode discretion tools.
if this sounds like work you'd want to do · here's how to start.
explore tessakin →
take the quiz →
create my account →
see the community-bringing model →
if this doesn't sit right, or you'd rather not join, no hard feelings. reply to the email that brought you here and let me know. we won't follow up.
built with the people we're serving.
tessakin · many loves · one home